The same process that invokes depression, helplessness, dangerous
anger, interpersonal violence, substance abuse, and endless
spiritual seeking have the same root.
I’ve approached this issue primarily through an analysis that I
would reluctantly call philosophic and I say reluctantly because I
am not a philosopher. I am me.
What is the root of violence, substance abuse, depression, and all
the rest? What aspect of our way of life nurtures these
conditions?
It is this: the invalidation of babies! And more specifically, it’s
your invalidation when you were very young.
Surprised? You should be, but this is the root of all of these
conditions. This is something you really need to know. You really
need to get acquainted with your own negation by your loving and
well intended parents, for they too were negated when they were
very young.
Why?
Because unless we wake up to our own invalidation, we will bequeath
to all future generations the same insidious Wound that underlies
all of these conditions. This is the disease of the spirit - this
is the disease of industrial civilization at war with the world and
at war with itself.
There is a cure.
There was a time when babies were not invalidated. We would need to
return to the hunting and gathering days of our distant ancestors
to witness, first-hand, the love of babies as they were and not as
we would require them to be. All such cultures view babies as
sacred beings
complete and whole unto themselves.
Each person is perceived as an expression of her/his own unique and
distinct journey. This was a time when your own story was
celebrated through laughter, tears, wonder, and connection.
This way of life had to come to an end with the development of
industrial agriculture, towns, and hierarchies. Men and women
needed to migrate away from the freedom to be themselves to become
laborers and baby makers. We had to learn to not only negate our
own children by believing that they are savages needing the graces
of civilization through discipline and punishment (both unknown in
hunting and gathering societies), but that the echo of this
traumatic invalidation needed to pass through the generations.
Without coerced obedience who would sacrifice their lives and their
world for the grim life of the factory? Who would exchange love and
connection for this world where fear is the common and universal
denominator?
To create a universe of unquestioning workers, it was essential
that people act against their own interests, to doubt themselves
and, most importantly, to seek authorities to tell them what to do
and how to do it. Thus we have the development of government and
organized religion. The chosen few became empowered to make the
iron clad rules for the many. This amazing transformation created
two classes; the rulers and the ruled.
All of the energy that had been expressed by the uniqueness of a
single life, now went into the monotonous drudgery of working for
the ruler. A world that trusted absolutely in the abundance of
nature (even in the Arctic and the deserts) could no longer be
trusted. So a pantheon of gods emerged and these gods needed to be
placated by the sacrifice of our endless labor, our adoring love,
and more than anything else, our obedience!
Obedience to order and authority became the paramount requirement
of organized industrial life. These institutions of order were
replicated in the modern systems of education and work. Obedience
is always the first rule. Creativity and being one’s authentic self
are revolutionary actions taken by people who must occupy the
fringes of society, for it is creativity and refusing to march in
order that are the only real, substantive threats to this world of
coercion and fear.
This world of order is finally running out of gas. But we will
never form a different kind of world until we take the most
authentic step that we can, which is to face our own invalidation.
That is the first step in the revolution of the self. This is how
you save yourself and your world.
The revolution is your revolution.
We see our invalidation in how lost our sense of who we are. We see
it in all of our compulsive behaviors. And we see it most clearly
in seeing our own False-Self. My book
Liberation from the Lie, which you can
purchase
here or at Amazon, is the perfect manual guiding you
to see your False-Selves in every conceivable dimension of your
life. Until this being is seen on the most subtle levels, you will
continue to just spin your wheels. You be a slave to your own
unseen fears.
But when it is seen - when you see the manifestation of your own
Wound in your life, then you are reborn. Then, and only then, do
you become the true revolutionary. Then you will see with eyes wide
open. You will see the desperate, agonizing sickness of this
civilization. You will be able to separate with beautiful clarity
the wheat from the chaff. And how you will laugh at your desperate
seeking. You will be alive in every moment. You will fall in love
with this life ... your life. This I assure you.
We each bring a different gift to this dance of life. But your gift
will be yours’ and yours’ alone. Once you see through the veils of
your own invalidation, in that moment, the chains that ensnare you
with our own false past will break. Your power will be real. Yes,
you will face the seemingly implacable walls of this fear-based
world, but you will stop recoiling in your fear and helplessness.
Instead, your heart will be alive to the challenge. You will never
need to depend on a teacher again, for now you can say, I am who I
am and I love this energy - my only guide is life itself in this
very moment - with all of its directness and challenge and that is
a life enough.
BTW: regarding the Soviet era farmer picture used in this post - I
just liked the image. He was just as invalidated as anyone else. No
model is suggested in the use of this image.
Spread the Word! - This is the Beginning of Our Revolution.